How to Survive the First Few Weeks with a Newborn

Setting the Boundaries When You Have a New Baby

If you’ve done NCT or something similar, you have probably been told that it is best to limit visitors in the days following the birth of your baby. But this isn’t always easy to do as there will probably be enthusiastic relatives and friends who are desperate to see your beautiful new addition. Some won’t stay long, just long enough for a cup of tea and a quick cuddle, but even this can be far from ideal when you’re totally exhausted. Especially if you’ve had a long and/or difficult labour.

Giving birth is an amazing experience, for some more than others (personally I hated both of my births), and often, the last thing you want to be doing shortly afterwards is making tea and washing up cups for a constant stream of visitors. Read More

Top Tips on How To Make a Flexible Routine for Your Baby

In my last blog, I wrote about how routines for babies and toddlers can be flexible. In this post, I’m going explain HOW to make a flexible routine for your baby, because it is so much easier than having no routine or a really strict one that means you always have to be back at home so that your baby can only nap in a completely dark, silent bedroom.

Once babies have some kind of routine, they are usually able to deviate from it slightly without it throwing the whole day out. Most will let you know if you’re trying to push things too far, by lengthening the time between feeds or sleeps by too much so that they are exhausted and miserable or starving and vile. But even this doesn’t mean that your whole day is going to be ruined – just feed or put them down for a nap as soon as you can.

Follow these steps to create your baby’s flexible routine:

  1. Work out what your baby’s basic needs are.These will change with their age, but what you need to think about is how often they need food or milk, how often they need to sleep and how much sleep they need through the day. The easiest way to do this is by keeping track of their eating a sleeping for a few days and looking for patterns.
  2. What are your regular commitments? For each day, write down where you need to go, what time your journeys need to start and how long your travelling time is. This will include classes, swimming lessons, toddler groups, school and nursery runs, NCT meet-ups etc.
  3. Using the information you have gathered in Step 1, write out a routine that will fulfill your baby’s basic daily needs, having start times between the earliest and latest time that your baby could cope with each event. Eg. 7.30/8.00 Breakfast.
  4. Work out how your activities and journeys will fit into the routine, and where you will need to leave earlier to allow for naps or meals.

Sample routine for a 5 month old:

  • 6.30/7.30      Wake up and feed/milk
  • 8.30/9.30      Nap
  • 11.00/11.30   Feed/milk
  • 12.30/1.00    Nap
  • 3.00/3.30      Feed/milk
  • 4.00/4.30      Nap
  • 6.30/7.00      Feed/milk
  • 7.00/7.30      Bed
  • 10.30/11.00   Dreamfeed

Tuesdays – Swimming at 11.00 with 15 minute drive. Do the 11.00 feed at 10.00 and set off at 10.30. Top up after swimming if the earlier feed was smaller than usual.

Thursdays – Baby Sensory at 10.00 with 30 minute drive. Either set off at 9.00/9.15 so the nap is in the car, but if an earlier nap is needed, try to start it at 8.30 so that you can get your baby up by 9.20 and go straight into the car. Do the 11.00 feed before getting back in the car after the lesson.

Monday, Tuesday and Thursday – preschool for older sibling 9.00-12.00 with 10 minute walk. Nap can either start in the pram or sling on the way in the morning and baby can be transferred or continue to sleep where he/she is afterwards while you walk/shop. Try to keep him/her awake for the pick up and put them to bed at home while you do your toddler’s lunch at home.

If a nap is shorter than usual because you are making a journey, don’t worry, your baby will make the sleep up later by either going down slightly earlier for their next nap,or sleeping longer. If you have to feed early, and the feed is small, you can top up later.

These are just a few ideas to demonstrate how you can change your baby’s routine to make it flexible. If this is something you would like help with, we can help you by taking your information and putting together a routine that will suit your baby’s needs and fit into your life. It can be done over Skype or by visiting me in Henley. Please call me for more information on 07977 462252.

Can a Baby’s Routine Really Be Flexible?

Often when I meet clients who are having difficulty with their baby’s sleep, they ask whether I’m going to give them a really strict routine to stick to. They don’t understand how a routine for their baby can fit into their busy life, especially if they have a toddler or older child. But babies, toddlers and children need routine so that their basic needs are met, they feel safe and secure and as a result will be happier and more well behaved. So I always reassure them that the routines that we put together take into account “real life” and all the other commitments that come with it. Read More

How to Avoid Holiday Hell With Your Kids

By Sleep Fairy Sarah Quick

We spend all year dreaming of those precious 2 weeks playing on the beach and staying in a hotel or apartment with our wonderful family! Now, the reality is that it can actually be a time of whinging, stropping & tantrums and that’s just from the other half! Read More

The Sleep Fairy Is Back (and so happy to be back!)

This time last year I was being told by my consultant in the maternity department at Royal Berks to cut right back on my work as there was a chance that my second baby would arrive early, like my first did. Reluctantly, I handed over most of my Sleep Fairy work to the more than capable Sarah and Liz, who have been doing working their Sleep Fairy magic and will continue to do so! I started to relax and think about the huge changes that were about to take place in our home.

Thankfully Luca arrived 2 days early rather than 2 months early, is now 10 months old, and I feel totally ready to bring a bit more work back into my life. As many of my clients may know, I have been on hand to help some families, but over the last few weeks I have been doing home consultations locally, and loving it! Read More